Good Morning Brethren,
TOPIC: GOD’S STANDARD OF CHOOSING A LIFE PARTNER (MARRIAGE)
3. *Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;*
4. *But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price*
When it comes to choosing a life partner, many people have waited long enough for the man/woman of their dreams.
Do you think God is not willing that you get married? No, It’s God’s will to give you the best. Sometimes it is possible your terms & conditions do not align with the will of God in the area of marriage. Having learned fatherly guidance from the Lord through personal experience and through the word, I want you to know that, *as heaven is far from the earth so are many of God’s thoughts & will differ from that of man*.
Many times, what you think is the reason for your choice is not always God’s reason for his choice for you. In other words, you can say this is best for you because it’s sweet, pleasant and Holy Ghost filled and God can say it’s not the best because it has limited sweetness before it becomes sour.
In today’s golden verses, we saw that God was more interested in the *hidden man* than any other thing.
In the previous verse Holy Spirit through Peter was admonishing the women in Church not to see the use of gold, good attire, braided hair as their way of winning or appealing to men ( *he didn’t say the use of those things is a sin*) but to let their glory be in the godly character that is rooted in genuine salvation and sanctification. In other words, attention should not be on the external decorations but on the internal purity and moral excellence.
Let me relate this to this age. I have been hearing of people called *Slay queen or Slay mama*, you can call them anything you like. God is not going to give you a slay mama or slay queen if you want God’s best for your life. All that those ones have is lavish and flamboyant lifestyles with a high level of moral decadence in most cases. God is not going to select such a woman for you as your wife because they lack godly character & won’t add any value to your life.
You see, God’s choice according to 1Pet.3:4 will not come because she is expensive. Devil is expensive when you estimated the cost of gold he was made of. It’s not a lipstick or eyelids marks that will win God’s heart but her inner beauty which is a moral character & spiritual stamina.
Look at the way NIV put it
4. Rather, it should be that of your *inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of GREAT WORTH IN GOD’S SIGHT*
Do you see what God places value on? Inner self-esteem, that is, the state of the spirit… The Bible says inner beauty has great worth before the Lord. God’s judgment is base on the spiritual significance and not braided hair or earrings. I don’t mean you can’t have it done but that’s not the main criteria for God’s choice.
Beloved, if you’re praying for God’s best, your conditions has to subjected to this verse which you can see for yourself in 1 Tim. 3:4. Many ladies may meet your lustful standard but only the right woman with good integrity and sobriety will meet God’s standard.
Beloved, education is good but that won’t be the major standard also. Body shape and contours are good but that will not be the criteria for God’s elect. All those things are not permanent but the heart that has been regenerated & filled the Holy Spirit is eternally going to remain the same.
Do you notice in verse 4, the Bible says…… *in that which is not corruptible*… Yes. Godly upbringing and genuine moral purity are not corruptible. Big body figures will wane and everything that is captivating your look will also change with time but a godly woman will remain a treasure forever.
…. *the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit*
Can you hear the Holy Spirit talking to you? Listen, if God has shown you your partner, stop pretending. I have heard people say but I don’t have feelings for him. Everything your common sense can tell you is base on what it can see & perceive. What God tells you is base on what you can’t see. You can’t see the future & that is why you’re not seeing what God is saying to you. Stop wasting time and make the next move. The brother may look too spiritual but isn’t it better than marrying someone that is devilish and will ruin your life with abuse.
You see, I have seen big women wishing they didn’t marry big boys & I have also seen average women testifying that they are grateful for staying with God’s choice of man because they are enjoying the best in marriage.
Finally, if you marry the wrong person because you want to satisfy your friends, you will soon realize that it’s a personal battle. None of those people will stay with you in your marriage. The last day you will impress them with the wrong handsome dude/pretty lady is the day of the wedding, after that day you will begin to live with the reality of your decision for another 70-80 years you will spend together.
Beloved, If you satisfy people for one day and weep for 50 years in regret with bad partners, every problem you encounter will remind you of your bad decision. You may not be able to forgive yourself again because the guilt that you disobey godly instruction will not allow you to rest.
Thanks for reading
Isaac O. Agbenla