RCCG SUNDAY SCHOOL TEACHER’S MANUAL
SUNDAY 13TH JANUARY 2019
TOPIC: LOVE DYNAMICS IN MARRIAGE
*SUNDAY SCHOOL HYMN*
*1.* O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
O how I love Thee well,
I am happy, it makes me glad
To rejoice at Thy birth.
*2.* O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Thy friend friendship suits me well,
Both young and old will sing Thy song,
We long for SundaySchool.
*3.* O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Christ was Thy first teacher,
The Holy Spirit, great teacher,
Does manifest in thee.
*4.* O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
This testimony is sure,
That God, the Father Almighty,
Poured His blessing on Thee.
*5.* O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Though the sun be so bright,
Or if the clouds be black with rain,
I’ll be in Sunday School.
*6.* O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
I rejoice to see Thee,
Will thou pass over me today?
Without my being blest?
Father, let true love continue in every home.
MEMORY VERSE: “By long forbearing is a prince persuaded, and a soft tongue breaketh the bone”. Prov. 25:15
BIBLE PASSAGE: GENESIS 2:18-25
And the LORD God said, “[It is] not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”
Out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought [them] to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature, that [was] its name.
So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him.
And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place.
Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.
And Adam said: “This [is] now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.”
Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
Many marriages are needlessly failing because the marriage partners lack the knowledge of relationship dynamics. Hosea 4:6. Most couples, sadly to say are ignorant on purpose. In this study, we will be looking at the scriptural principles and the love language that must characterize our marital relationships.
TEXT REVIEW: GENESIS 2:18-25 – “DIVINE SURGICAL OPERATION”
The mystery of togetherness in marriage is divine. This is the explained in the light of the following references:
i. God started it “And God said, It is not good that the man should be alone”. Gen.2:18.
ii. God recognized it “And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh…” Gen. 2:21.
iii. God performed the surgery and reconstructed the rib. “And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman”. Gen. 2:22.
iv. God translated the bone to bones and flesh. Gen. 2:23a
v. The only assignment which Adam did in the process was to label the new creation by naming it and to accept it. “And Adam said…..,she shall be called a woman….shall cleave to his wife”. Gen. 2:23-24.
vi. Both the man and the woman began to cohabit ( unity). They clave(unity). They were not ashamed (unity). Verse 24-25.
1. Scriptural principle guiding marriage
2. Understanding the “love language”
SCRIPTURAL PRINCIPLES GUIDING MARRIAGE
Couples should understand the following scriptural principles:
i. That the couple(male & female)is the image of God. Gen.1:27.
ii. That the differences in male and female are God-designed and therefore should be accepted as complimentary and not competitive. Gen.2:18.
iii. That marriage is a divine institution and that it is a relationship of companionship. Gen.2:21-25; Matt. 19:5.
iv. That the marriage was designed by God to be a permanent, mutual and covenant relationship. Matt.19:6
v. That God’s intent is for marriage to be an inestimable source of joy and fulfillment.
vi. That through marriage, God intends to bring redemption to human race. Gen. 3:15; 22:18.
vii. That marital relationship provides the vehicle for the incarnation of the Savior Jesus Christ. Eph. 5:31-32.
CLASS ACTIVITY 1
Class to discuss why many marriages do not follow or are not based on the above-mentioned principles.
UNDERSTANDING THE “LOVE LANGUAGES”
For a lasting marriage, couple should understand and apply the following five(5) love languages frequently:
i. Quality Time Together: Spending time with each other and talking without interruptions, going out and about, having fun together, celebrating birthdays and wedding anniversaries, etc. let courtship experience continue. Gen. 26:8.
ii. Acts of Service: Do things you know your spouse would like you do. For example cooking meals, helping each other especially in household chores, etc. Eccl. 4:9.
iii. Exchange of Gift: Express your love for each other through giving/receiving of gifts no matter how small. 1Sam.1:5; Prov.17:8.
iv. Words of Affirmation: Couples must be consistent in saying ‘I love you’, ‘I am sorry’, ‘Thank you’, ‘you look nice in that dress’, etc. to each other. SOS 1:15; 4:1,7.
v. Physical touching: This is a way of communicating emotional love, e.g. holding hands, kissing, pecking, embracing, patting, necking, nibbling, sitting close to each other, etc. Gen. 26:8; SOS. 1:2.
Biblical marital principles and “love language” strengthened the marital relationship.
Couples should discover and express to each other what ‘their’ primary love language is and not just speak/do to them what “your” love language is.
Father, help couples to imbibe the biblical principles and love languages in Jesus name.
Find out five major differences between the scripture-based marital principles and the world/carnal-based marital principle. 2 marks for each points.